Friday, February 17, 2017

Shopping in the Woman's Section

​What if I told you nobody cares?

No please, we do care, please continue reading.

One of the biggest fears a crossdresser has is going shopping in the women's section of a department store. It is completely ludicrous to think that a physical space can be divided into two, ONLY two genders, male and female. Yet department stores around the world subscribe to this notion: A male section and a woman's section.  Women have been wearing pants for decades yet in 2017 for a man to wear a dress is still taboo. Sure, a man can order a dress online but as we learned from the Gender Fun community on Facebook  you can never tell how the dress will fit unless you try it on in the dressing room.

I believe that at the core of the fear that comes from a man shopping in the woman's section is that they will be thought of as a pervert. Yet we think of a woman shopping in the men's section as if she were shopping for her boyfriend or husband. This gender bias is subconscious yet evident to those who cross the gender barrier. Although most of us in the Western world live in a binary gender system, we seem to find ourselves in a gender system that only works one way when it comes to shopping for women's clothes. Women seem to have the upper hand and can shop in both male and female sections of a department store, while men can only shop in the men's section otherwise they might seem deviant.

There is a lot of talk recently about gender inequality when it comes to wages for females in the workplace yet there is very little talk about inequality when it comes to men having the right to shop, without judgment, in the women's section of a department store.  News flash, some men like to buy and wear women's clothing.

But what if I told you no-one cares if a man is shopping in the women's section.  What if I told you sales clerks are bored out of their minds in their day-to-day routines and would welcome a little excitement in their lives?  What if that excitement was the prospect of a man looking for a dress that fits him so perfectly that it made him feel like a beautiful woman?

Yes, there have been online article about how to shop if you are transgender, and about dudes who like to shop in the women's section and how it's not a drag thing, but at the end of the day what we need to remember is the fact that the gender binary is ludicrous and that a man wanting to purchase female things is no big deal.

So next time you find yourself wanting to check out what's new in the woman's section in a department store don't hold yourself back, go there and check it out.  You might just find something that is sooo YOU.

Monday, February 13, 2017

Adele on Promiscuity

After watching last night's Grammy ceremony I have come to the conclusion that not only is the United States of America dealing with collective emotional pain, it may also be highly sexually frustrated and in need of some good sexual stress relief.  

Last night Adele paid tribute to the late George Michael by singing his song "Fastlove."  She had a rocky start to say the least.  Music experts may tell you she was probably off key or off tune at the start, so naturally when she reached the chorus she fell apart.  She stopped the performance on Live television.  You could sense her huge disappointment in herself.  But she didn't walk off the stage with her tail between her legs.  She started the song again and finished triumphantly.  

Her fumble however wasn't the topic of conversation amongst at least two homosexual men on social media.  Instead her performance was seen as a social/political statement.  

Here are a couple of posts from my Facebook feed of two gay men in their thirties. One is a Republican and the other is a Democrat. Yes, I'm friends with both. 

I understand their differing points of view but to be honest, I thought last night Adele gave the George Michael song a whole new meaning, not just in its arrangement but also in that derailment towards the beginning and subsequent getting back on the horse. (Just to be clear, there was no train and no horse on stage...nor elephant nor donkey either)
George Michael was taken from us too soon. You might even say it's as if he gave us some "Fast Love," and then...he was gone. George made his "way into the light" as the song says, and those very last words in the song "I miss my baby," still resonate in the hearts of his fans.

Here is my reply to my first friend above: 

"I think the interesting thing about the lyrics to Fastlove is that at the core of the song is a person that wants to leave the pain behind and simply have a gay 'ol time. That's why Adele's pain filled performance hit that cord. Clearly it may have left folks longing for something a bad one night stand often does. So in my eyes your unhappiness with the song selection, in a way, makes the performance a success."

Which brings me back to the emotional state of the nation.  What better time than now to carve out some time each week to get a little Fastlove in order to deal with the current emotional pain?  Scientists to this day keep researching the benefits of having sex.  Although, I believe we must continue to do A LOT more research on the subject here are some potential benefit of getting it on tonight.

- Sex Relieves Stress
- Sex Boosts Immunity
- Sex Burns Calories
- Sex Improves Cardiovascular Health
- Sex Boosts Self-Esteem
- Sex Improves Intimacy
- Sex Reduces Pain
- Sex Reduces Prostate Cancer Risk
- Sex Strengthens Pelvic Floor Muscles
- Sex Helps You Sleep Better

Of course some folks would rather a friend-with-benefits instead of a one-night-stand, and other folks as we learned from asking the Gender Fun community on FB, would like a deeper sexual connection.  
(to see responses click LINK)

Whatever the case may be there is no doubt in my mind that now more than ever it wouldn't hurt to get a bit of Fastlove.  If you're not up for "performing" or things seem to take a turn for the worst, just remember that you get a second chance.  Often times it's better the second time around.

Now, go get-it-on baby! 

ps - Don't forget the foreplay 

Saturday, February 4, 2017

Tranny Trigger Warnings and Gay, I mean, Happy Safe Places

Did I ever tell you that a few years ago I dated a fine young man who attended UC Berkeley? We had a short romance but I still hold fond memories of our time together. He ended up in Forbes 30 under 30 so don't worry, he's doing just fine. And no, he was not a part of the violent riots that took place on campus recently.

Why were there riots at UC Berkeley you ask? It's pretty complicated but let me summerize it for you: a gay jewish immigrant, who sleeps with black guys was scheduled to do a presentation and well...some folks didn't like that idea. So they thought a better idea would be to break windows and set things on fire causing an estimated $100,000 in damages.

You might think "well that sounds a bit like an overreaction." You don't want someone to do a presentation so you set things on fire? It's sorta like when someone aledgely cuts you in line and you become so angry that you target their immigrant status to insult them for the whole store to hear. Overreaction, yeah, probably.

Seems folks are being triggered left and right these days. One could say that folks are so stressed that just about anything might set them off.  Just about anything can be a trigger these days, as if everyone is suffering from PTSD. You say the wrong thing and poof someone starts yelling in your face. You're not as upset as your concervative friend then clearly you must not care about the state of the country. You voted for Trump then your Liberal Facebook friend demands that you unfriend him. You use the word "Tranny" and you are excomunicated from the T in LGBTQ. Must we use "Trigger Warnings" prior to exercising our 1st Amendement right then?

Now of course using the word Tranny can cause a great deal of upset even when used as a term of endierment, but especially when said malisiously to a Transgender person. Just look at these horrible things said in the following site click link

Being exposed to such language combined with law makers trying to police public restrooms can begin to convince you that the world you live in is not a safe place, and that simply walking outside your home equates being bumbarded with triggers on a daily basis.  It becomes sensory overload and you simply tune out...until you blow up!

There has been lots of talk about the use of trigger warnings and safe spaces in Universities such as that of the University of Chicago in the past few months. Heck, I have even used the term "Safe-Space" in conversation when describing the space I created in order to perform Male-to-Female makeovers. However, the irony of the concept of a "Safe-Space is not lost on me. In reality a "Safe-Space" is simply "The illusion of Safety" as we learned in the movie Fight Club.

My idea of a "Safe-Space" is an environment where awareness is brought to anything that is discussed, a zone where there is a free exchange of ideas.  Nothing is off-bounds.  You have something on your mind, let it out while in my makeup chair.  Bring it to light.  Let's explore it.

I do understand that some folks are uncomfortable discussing topics for which they have limited knowledge.  But how can we learn from each other if we don't knock down those walls between us?

We are living in interesting times.  As Susan Jacoby author of  The Age of American Unreason said:

"The Parents of baby boomers dreamed of educating a son who would work with his head instead of his hands and daughter who would marry a man capable of earning a living with his head and not his hands."

Here we are living in a period where sons are turning into daughters and where manual labor jobs are being shipped to other countries or taken over by machines.  Add to that the perceived fear that immigrants are threatening our way of life, especially if they don't plan to assimilate.

​"Between 1860 and 1910, in spite of the deaths of more than six hundred thousand men in the Civil War, the American population nearly tripled - from some 31 million to more then 92 million - as a result of immigration from Southern and Eastern Europe...a raw number that would seem to rule out any possibility of successful assimilation or absorption." - Susan Jacoby

So in all this noice and chaos how is one expected to find happiness?  Is the pursuit of happiness even relevant?  What is the goal of all of this conflict anyway.  Let's see what Sumner has to say  in the  "Reply to a Socialist"