Friday, September 1, 2017

​ Personal Recipe to Minimize Gender Dysphoria

​ In a previous blog entry we discussed how there is a probability that you know of someone who is experiencing Gender Dysphoria.

​ In this blog entry we will discuss how to minimize the symptoms of Gender Dysphoria

​ As we previously discussed, experiencing Gender Dysphoria is not pleasant. Like many unpleasant experiences in life it can prompt the fight or flight response. Since Gender Dysphoria is something we experience internally, and since we can't escape our bodies, it is up to us to summon the strength to fight to better our situation.

​ So let's see what's on the opposite side of the Gender Dysphoria coin.

Once you realize that you are experiencing Gender Dysphoria there is no point in sitting around feeling sorry for yourself. It is time to flip the coin and see what's on the other side.

Gender Dysphoria is Destiny Calling.

Gender Dysphoria is the Call of Adventure.

Gender Dysphoria is a Call to Action.

The interesting thing about knowing you are experiencing Gender Dysphoria is that not only do you know what you don't want in your life, you also become aware of what you do want in your life. How is that possible? Because Gender Dysphoria lives in a Gender Binary Universe just like everyone else. Meaning you either want to feel, be, and/or present more masculine or more feminine than you currently do.

Now, all you have to do is take the steps to go out and get what you want! Experiencing Gender Dysphoria leaves us with scars, so what better acronym to use in order to empower ourselves. S.C.A.R.S. (Search, Create, Assemble, Remember, Shrive)

It's time to stop hiding our scars but instead show them proudly!

S.C.A.R.S.

SEARCH
Search for Examples. What steps did the folks who came before you take in order to minimize their Gender Dysphoria and how can you do the same?

CREATE
Create an action plan/budget. Write down a goal and the steps you will need to take in order to achieve them.
MTF example:

- Pierce ears
- Grow head hair long
- Get laser or electrolysis on face
- Start hormone treatment
- etc

ASSEMBLE
Assemble a team. You will need help along the way, from posisbly a psychologist, a hairdresser, a laser techician or electrologist, to a local clinic where to get hormones etc. It's your team. Assemble it wisely.

REMEMBER
Remember that it's the journey that counts. Nobody wakes up one morning looking the way they dreamed of looking just because they prayed they would the night before. Physical changes take time. Remind yourself of that fact.

SHRIVE
Shrive your past.  Forgive yourself for the time you spent in the Closet. Let's face it, if you experience Gender Dysphoria you are probably your own worst critic. It's time to start being a little nicer to yourself. Self-talk is a powerful thing. Next time you catch yourself having negative thoughts about yourself, STOP and stand up for yourself, to yourself.  Don't allow yourself to talk negatively about yourself. Your past got you here, that was its job. Now you know better and can do better in your present moment for the sake of your future.
It's time to forgive yourself.

In our next blog entry we will discuss how to communicate with an individual who experiences Gender Dysphoria.

Wednesday, August 30, 2017

Newsletter August

Maria whom we transformed in 2016


Hi Dearest reader,

How are you?

Here is the latest news on our end: In the month of August we blogged about :

1. What is the Difference Between a Drag Queen, a Trans Woman, and a Transvestite?  
Read blog post click HERE

Cake Girl. see more of her click HERE

2.  Do People Believe You are FAKE?  
Read blog post click HERE


Samantha. see more of her click HERE

3. Will I wear a Bikini or a One-Piece Swim Suit? 
Read blog post click HERE

I was also overcome with emotion which prompted me to write down my feelings about the great injustice my clients face.  Read click HERE

And again overcome with emotion I wrote the following click HERE

Michele.  see more of her click HERE

4. Could I or Someone I know be Experiencing Gender Dysphoria?
Read blog post click HERE



In August we did  4 Male-to-Female makeovers. 


Me and Venus. Protecting her identity since she's in the closet

Me and Emily. Protecting her identity since she's in the closet


NEW SHOES
Do you want to see the new shoes we bought this month?  
click HERE



ELECTROLYSIS TREATMENT
I've had over 20 hours done on my face and I might need another 30-40 more hours of treatment depending on the resiliency of the hair.
See a shocking pic of my neck after a treatment click HERE


We launchd the GenderFun.com Femme Adventure 30 page Guide! 



Get a free copy 
Email us at info@genderfun.com





The Facebook Gender Fun community SPEAKS!
Learn what the community is talking about.
Request the Questions Directory (as seen in above screenshot) 
Email us at info@genderfun.com




Request the over 9000 word Travel Log
of our 17 day 2016 Crossdressing Cross Country Trip
Email us at info@genderfun.com



MY 2017 OUTFITS
click HERE

My Latest video clips.  

To watch click HEREHERE, and HERE



To read all newsletters click HERE



Thank you so much for your ongoing support.



xoxo,
--
Adrian L Acosta

aka
Amnesia Sparkles

The latest Gender Fun:
NEWS
www.Facebook.com/GenderFun
VIDEOS
https://www.youtube.com/GenderFun
PHOTOS
www.Flickr.com/photos/AmnesiaSparkles

Thursday, August 24, 2017

Could I or Someone I know be Experiencing Gender Dysphoria?

CLOTHES
At one point in your childhood you came to the realization that most, if not, ALL boys don't wear skirts.

BODY
At another point in your childhood you came to the realization that, anatomically speaking, boys and girls are different.

EMOTIONS
Some parents/guardians/teachers stop boys from being in touch with there emotions by telling them emotionally damaging things such as "boys don't cry" as shown in the documentary "The Mask You Live In." While we try to convince ourselves AND girls that they are naturally TOO emotional. This we call Gender Policing.

For most of us these two realizations combined with Gender Policing means that we put people in two categories Male and Female, and we MUST put OURSELVES in one of either Gender category (Gender Binary) as well...but for some of us having to be in the Gender category assigned by our society or being in ONLY ONE of these two Gender categories causes us a great deal of STRESS.

We didn't want to grow up a boy and become a "man" or we didn't want to grow up a girl and become a "woman."

Some of us told our parents of our discomfort with this Gender Binary system and the disconnection we felt to our bodies at an early age while many if not MOST OF US kept it a secret and pushed it deep down and to the back of the closet.

Generally speaking, that feeling, that stress, we are talking about has been given a name; Gender Dysphoria.

At this very moment any member of YOUR family could very well be struggling  with some level of Gender Dysphoria and you wouldn't even know it.  Folks with Gender Dysphoria are masters of hiding how they truly feel in life.

Some folks are pros at putting on a smile during the stressful times. That is a survival skill we learned.

Another realization we had as a child is that when it's time to take the family photo portrait we ought to SMILE and LOOK HAPPY even if deep down inside we are sad.  Some of us see it as a emotional "sacrifice" for the greater good. We sacrifice our self expression in order to maintain the "peace," or at least we convince ourselves that THAT is what we are doing. But suppressing any emotion acts like a pressure cooker, the more it is suppressed the more it wants to bubble-up to the surface or explode in time like it did with Madison Holleran.

Unlike Madison Holleran, may she rest in peace, our lives don't have to end in suicide.  We can learn to express ourselves and work hard to find and create environments where we are accepted for expressing how we feel deep down inside.

We recently asked the Gender Fun community on our Facebook page to share their thoughts on Gender Dysphoria.


To read responses click HERE


Gender Dysphoria is a REAL FEELING.

Yes, there will be people who say that Gender Dysphoria is simply an EXCUSE some folks use to not fully come out of the closet about how they truly feel in Life.



In our humble opinion, at the end of the day it all comes down to how you feel about expressing your TRUE emotions regardless of this Gender Binary world you were born into.  It takes a lot of courage to DEFY THE CURRENT SYSTEM by piercing your ears and growing your hair long if you were assigned male at birth or growing your arm pit hairs and leg hairs if you were assigned female at birth. 

Once you realize that Gender Dysphoria is a social decease that most societies are suffering from, and passing down to generations, you will become one step closer to the freedom from the Social Gender Prison you were born into. 

The Gender Veil has been lifted, we all see the Gender oppression happening in our times.  It is NOW that we HEAR THE CALL TO ACTION to put a STOP TO THE GENDER DEVIDE.


In the next blog entry I will lay out my personal action plan to combat Gender Dysphoria.