Tuesday, August 22, 2017

Dog Days Of Summer Are Almost Over

Ladies and gents we are almost done with the 'Dog Days' of Summer.  Why do we call them the 'Dog Days' of Summer you ask?  The phrase comes from ancient Greek beliefs about a star.  To learn more click HERE

As you know I'm in the middle of getting Electrolysis treatments on my face and growing my head hair long.  I know, I know, I'm getting rid of hair on one part of my body and letting it grow long on another.  It's all part of my journey to feminize my appearance.  If you're curious as to how things are going you can click HERE

Summer 2018 is a year away but it is my dream and goal to be smoother in the face and be sporting long hair on my head next year when I hit the beach and pool.  But what will I wear you ask?

I've NEVER liked male swim trunks.  I detest them.  I never feel comfortable wearing male swimsuits.  The more I'm coming to terms with my gender identity the more this makes sense.

So today we asked the Facebook Gender Fun community a fun question:

To read responses click HERE

If you're curious to know my answer to the above question see below.  

Here is my latest purchases as I get ready for Summer 2018.  I know it sounds silly to plan a year in advance but when you are on a journey like myself where it will take at least a year to be hair free on my face and for my head hair to grow to the length I'd like, why not start planing now on how I will hit the beach and pool in 2018?

Here is what I bought today 







The below I already had 

Tidetell Strapless Self Adhesive Silicone Invisible Push-up Bra click HERE

Now all I have to do is not get FAT!  LOL 

Last time I took semi-naked pics of myself was in 2016 (below).  

I've slowed down my working out in 2017, however I've not gain weight.  If anything my body is now softer.  I was born with a bit of an  androgynous body, small waist and wide hips for a "guy."  And being Latino/a most of my fat goes straight to my thighs and hips.  It's the 'Lopez Effect.'  

Here's to looking forward to having fun in the Sun in 2018.  

I believe it's always important to set goals...especially when the goals involve having a great time! 

I hope you're enjoying these last days of Summer! 

Friday, August 18, 2017

​ Do People Believe You are FAKE?

Michelle Pfeiffer for Interview Magazine

This December (2017) will mark 37 years since Mark David Chapman killed The Beatle's John Lennon for being a "phony."  The convicted murderer chillingly once said Lennon was a phony ...’ Mr Chapman borrowed the term "Phony" straight out of J.D. Salinger's 1951 popular novel The Catcher in the Rye

As a person, myself, who presents both in male and female form I've always found this term "phony" or "fake" interesting.  I've even written a blog entry back in 2013 about this ridiculous and DANGEROUS notion that there is this thing we call a "true self" or an "authentic self."  As if saying there is a REAL self and a FAKE self.  

Recently the actress Michelle Pfeiffer did and interview for Interview Magazine where she said "I have this constant fear that I'm a fraud and that I'm going to be found out. " 

And right after reading that interview we learned about the new documentary on the late singer Whitney Houston "Whitney Can I be Me" where Houston's saxophonist, Kirk Whalum, summed up Whitney's internal workings in a quote that became the title of the film. "Her favorite saying was, 'Can I be me?'"  said Mr Whalum.  Did Whitney feel like she was being a phony, a fake, not her "true self?" 

This prompted us today to ask the Gender Fun Community

To read folk's reply click HERE

One of the reasons I ask this question is because
I have heard many folks who crossdress who say
that when they "dress" they are being their 
"true self." Wouldn't that mean that when they
don't dress theyare being fake?   Or that they
could be perceived as being "Fake"
 by someone who doesn't dress?

LISTEN UP ladies and gents, and everyone
We humans are multifaceted.
We are complex creatures.
We are living in our minds but also living in the
physical world.
To think that there is a REAL self is a fallacy.
What may seem REAL to us is FAKE to
someone else.
Society is constantly judging us by our appearance.
Sure, our appearance can give others a sense of
how we feel deep inside but unless they are
US they can't understand.
Sure, they can be empathetic to our experiences 
but for THAT to happen they need to REALLY
HEAR what we have to say.

At the end of the day we are all REAL, like JLo.

No matter how or what we present to the world.

As the late Maya Angelou said

“When someone shows you who they are believe them; the first time.” 

or as Oprah would paraphrase 

"When people show you who they are, believe them." 

Keep being YOU as complex as it may seem to the world.

Those who can see straight to the heart will SEE you for who you are and what you
can contribute to this world during your relatively short existence.

If they don't "get you" give them time.  They may come around.  If after some time
they still don't "get you" then wish them well.

You have a lot of Life to live and can't be bothered to have to "prove" yourself at every Life's turn.

Thursday, August 10, 2017

What is the Difference between a Drag Queen, a Trans Woman, and a Transvestive?

Bianca Del Rio, Candis Cayne, Tim Curry as Frank-N-Furter

Recently we asked the Gender Fun Community on Facebook the following very controversial question:

We received a large number of very thought-out and intelligent answers.  It's worth a read.  Check it out click HERE

I'm a staunch believer that when explaining labels that bleed into each other and that deal with Gender AND Sexuality there is no absolute black and white answer.  I also believe that, in LIFE, it's always better to look at the similarities in people than the differences.  That being said, we think it's educational to list SOME differences an similarities between these three self-identifying individuals/groups.

Here is what we came up with:

Do you agree?  Do you disagree?